“25/m Used to hit on everyone regardless of making them uncomfortable, now gone to far the other way and started doing the “nice guy” thing, how do you strike a balance? Keeping it brief. Used to hit on girls, push the limits, generally be a (hopefully) charming douche bag. Would gladly piss off 20 girls in a night to get one. However, I grew up a bit and lost my taste for that.
The other night, met a girl, left the bar with her and her friends, and when we got back to their place, I was surprised to find out she didn’t know I was into her. She thought we were hanging out. I realised, I assumed she knew, but I never really made an indication of any kind, its totally reasonable she wouldn’t know. I need to find a balance between neckbeard and douchebag, but the line seems to escape me..”